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Striving to become a quintessential leader and growing spiritually, mentally, and emotionally into the character, integrity, and knowledge that being a quintessential leader requires is not optional for us.

15 Invaluable Laws of Growth - John C. MaxwellThe 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell offers some very practical insights into both the mechanics of growth and the obstacles that we must overcome that hinder us or stop us from growing.

In this series of posts, I will be summarizing the main points of each chapter – each chapter covers a particular law of growth – in hopes that each of us will be more consciously aware of our need to grow, as well as the things that can stand in the way of our growth as we strive to become quintessential leaders in all areas of our lives. (more…)

Striving to become a quintessential leader and growing spiritually, mentally, and emotionally into the character, integrity, and knowledge that being a quintessential leader requires is not optional for us.

15 Invaluable Laws of Growth - John C. MaxwellThe 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell offers some very practical insights into both the mechanics of growth and the obstacles that we must overcome that hinder us or stop us from growing.

In this series of posts, I will be summarizing the main points of each chapter – each chapter covers a particular law of growth – in hopes that each of us will be more consciously aware of our need to grow, as well as the things that can stand in the way of our growth as we strive to become quintessential leaders in all areas of our lives. (more…)

Striving to become a quintessential leader and growing spiritually, mentally, and emotionally into the character, integrity, and knowledge that being a quintessential leader requires is not optional for us.

15 Invaluable Laws of Growth - John C. MaxwellThe 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell offers some very practical insights into both the mechanics of growth and the obstacles that we must overcome that hinder us or stop us from growing.

In this series of posts, I will be summarizing the main points of each chapter – each chapter covers a particular law of growth – in hopes that each of us will be more consciously aware of our need to grow, as well as the things that can stand in the way of our growth as we strive to become quintessential leaders in all areas of our lives.

Chapter 1 covers the Law of Intentionality

Too often we live our lives focused on increased activity – doing more – assuming that growth automatically be a by-product, instead of living our lives focused on growth and improvement in who we are, what we are, and what we think, say, and do.

This chapter addresses the need for us to intend to grow first and lists the growth gap traps – the erroneous believes we have that keep us from growing – that we must overcome (not all will apply to everyone, but these certainly cover the gambit):

  1. The Assumption Gap – we assume that spiritual, mental, and emotional growth is automatic and will simply happen with time. This is untrue. To bridge this gap, each of us must take personal responsibility for our own growth, including taking the actions necessary to begin growing and to continue to grow for the rest of our lives.
  2. The Knowledge Gap – we don’t know where we need to grow or how to do it. To bridge this gap, we must first do a thorough analysis of where we are today, where we should be and/or need to be, and where we want to be when everything’s said and done. My suggestion is to write things down during this self-analysis because it helps with focus and it also gives us a concrete reference point to start from. Then we begin to, with purpose and deliberation, take continual steps forward, finding the best resources we can to take rights steps in the right direction, toward our goal, increasing not only our knowledge, but our ability to apply that knowledge, as we grow and improve along the way.
  3. The Timing Gap – we use this to put off undertaking growth and improvement by either saying we don’t have the time to do it now or by delaying it to a later time (tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, when this or that event happens, etc.). There is no time like right now while you’re reading this and I’m writing it for us to commit to and undertake intentional growth and improvement. There is a undeniable correlation between delayed action and a diminished sense of urgency and immediacy that will set in with us and keep us exactly where we’ve always been if we do not take action now.
  4. The Mistake Gap – we don’t take action toward growth and improvement because we’re afraid of making mistakes. Growth, by its very nature, is messy and mistakes are part of the learning process. Because growth includes a willingness to take risks (doing things we haven’t done before or trying to do things better – and, therefore, differently – than we have before), mistakes are inevitable along the way. Mistakes serve two very valuable purposes in our lives. They both teach us to consider things from every angle (to think critically) and they clarify what does work and what doesn’t work.
  5. The Perfection Gap – we can’t start growing until we find the best and most fail-safe way to do it. Waiting for the perfect way will find us at the end of our lives having achieved nothing in terms of growth and improvement. The only way to learn what the best way to grow and improve involves is to actually begin and utilize the tools and resources we have to gain the knowledge and ability to continue to move forward.
  6. The Inspiration Gap – we don’t “feel like” doing it or we are waiting for inspiration to begin to grow. Life consists of many things that we may not feel like doing or we’re not inspired to do, but to live, we have to do them anyway. Growth, however, should be something we so strongly desire that we push forward in it by just doing it, whether we feel like it (sometimes we won’t) or whether we’re inspired (sometimes we won’t be).
  7. The Comparison Gap – we compare ourselves to other people and use them both as a measure and a reason not to undertake growth. When we compare ourselves to other people, we will find plenty of reasons not to undertake growth. Often, we end up comparing apples to oranges in these peer comparisons and we use the faulty conclusions we draw to undermine our own growth process. Each of us is a unique creation, with different abilities, strengths, and talents. We may often find an area where we need to grow that is comparable to climbing Mt. Everest for us, but it may be an area that somebody else has no trouble growing in (or it’s not even a problem area). To start drawing comparisons between ourselves and that other person will inevitably throw up a strong deterrent to us taking the first step toward growth that we need to take.
  8. The Expectation Gap – we expect growth to be faster and easier than it actually is. The reality is that growth is long and hard work. It takes dedicated time and concentrated, diligent effort. It is often at the point where expectation meets reality that we are most tempted to – and many people do – quit altogether. Instead, we must just keep putting one foot in front of the other, even if we’re at the point that just doing that requires all the energy and effort we have. Each step forward moves us closer to the goal.

So how do we begin the process of intentionally growing?

There are four areas we need to consider:

  1. Ask ourselves the right questions
    1. Where am I?
    2. Where do I need and want to be?
    3. What direction to I need to take?
    4. What limits am I placing on my growth and how do I remove them?
  2. Do it now
  3. Face the fear factors
    1. Fear of failure
    2. Fear of trading security for the unknown
    3. Fear of what other people will think and say
    4. Fear out outgrowing people (this often happens)
  4. Change from accidental growth to intentional growth

Comparison of accidental growth to intentional growth

As quintessential leaders, intentional, purposeful, actionable growth and improvement must be taking place in our lives continually and the results of our ever-moving progress forward must be evident at all times and in every part of our lives.

How are we doing?

Quintessential Leadership is both a goal and a mountain to climb, replete with stumbles, falls, and setbacks that we must recover from, learn from, and getting up and keep climbing from

 

 

This blog describes what quintessential leadership looks – and doesn’t look – like and the aspects of every part of who and what we are in our lives from the inside out that each of us who are striving to become quintessential leaders must be aware of, must examine carefully, and must be in a constant state of forward progress to changing to become quintessential leaders.

The reality is that none of us is there yet and that includes me. (more…)

Martin Luther King, Jr. on the nature of progressDr. Martin Luther King, Jr. made an insightful and wise observation on the nature of progress: “All progress is precarious, and the solution of one problem brings us face to face with another problem.”

The reality is that the solution to one problem often brings us face to face with many other problems. That is the price of progress. Understanding, knowing, and accepting that is also what distinguishes quintessential leaders from everyone else. (more…)

Quintessential leaders continue to learn and educate themselves all their livesThe day a human being – other than teenagers, who don’t know any better – decides they know it all and there is nothing else to learn or no reason to continue educating themselves is the day they die from the inside out.

When people in leadership positions do this, they become foolish, ignorant, and irrelevant, fit for nothing more than to go live as a hermit in a cave somewhere.

Because when people in leadership positions stop learning and stop educating themselves, they become useless.

We live in a world where ego breeds ignorance in people in leadership positions. Increasingly, this triumph of ego over knowledge (I’ve discussed this before) is applauded, embraced, and endorsed.

When this egotism and ignorance is in people in leadership positions, two things happen.

Ignorance starts when learning and education stopsFor the majority of people impacted by them, an increase in gullibility (engendered by each of these people’s failure to continue to learn and educate themselves, preferring instead to let media and technology appeal to their baser – and ignorant – natures and give them neatly-packaged, but erroneous, talking points they can parrot) leads the majority just to accept whatever they hear as being true. Ignorance, then, perpetuates itself throughout society.

For the minority of people who are continuing to learn and educate themselves, these people in leadership positions lose their respect and their trust. And they lose this minority of people who either internally, first, and physically, eventually, walk away from them for good.

I’ll give a real-life example of this kind of ignorance because I hear and have heard statements about this over and over.

Not long ago, a person in a leadership position was talking to a group of people, which I was among. The person told the group that President George W. Bush didn’t know anything about the threat of attacks on 9/11/01 just like President Franklin D. Roosevelt didn’t know anything about the threat of attack on Pearl Harbor.

I sat there in disbelief because because both statements were totally false and if this person who is in a leadership position had continued learning and educating themselves, they would have never made those statements.

History has revealed that both presidents were well aware that the respective attacks were not only probable, but imminent. They chose to ignore that information because the attacks would give them the go-ahead to do what they would not be able to do any other way.

President RooseveltIn President Roosevelt’s case, the only way the United States could get into World War II officially (it had already been unofficially involved since the late 1930’s) with the support of the American people was if America was attacked. Therefore, the attack on Pearl Harbor was his (and his advisors’) ticket into the global conflict.

In President Bush’s case, one of his objectives was to finish the job in Iraq – killing Saddam Hussein – that had been unfinished when the Gulf War (August 1990 – February 1991) ended.

President BushHe couldn’t just go attack, so he had to find a way to be in the Middle East. Al Qaeda’s uptick in activity and increased direct threats to the United States gave President Bush (and his advisors) the promise of an open door to complete his ultimate objective. When the attack came, the door opened.

Perhaps it’s hard to believe that a country would let its own people die in order the meet other objectives.

However, anyone who is continuing to learn and continuing their education – which includes history – will know that’s been the story of humanity.

Ignorance of the truth of our story as a species leads to more ignorance about our story in all its organizational contexts and ignorance about our story as individuals. The net effect is that we have no clue about the big picture and we believe lies and perpetuate them.

Because quintessential leaders keep the big picture in mind all the time, they know they don’t know everything about everything, and they know that ignorance breeds lies (quintessential leaders value and ensure, to the best of their abilities, truth in everything), quintessential leaders never stop learning and they never stop educating themselves. 

How?

As anybody whose been through both the K-12 and higher educational systems in the United States knows very little learning and education happens in the process.

Much of what is taught are the propagated lies and sheer memorization of them (there are exceptions to this and I was fortunate enough to have a handful of educators along the way who were exceptions, just as I was fortunate enough to have parents who put a high premium on lifelong learning and education).

We come out of these systems with necessary pieces of paper, but, in most cases, very little real education and knowledge.

And that is when quintessential leaders embark on their lifelong quest for learning and education.

Quintessential leaders read widely. They read the classics (quality fiction), but mostly they read non-fiction on a wide variety of topics of substance.

Quintessential leaders know how to test and prove or disprove what they read. The more a person reads (and I’m talking about spending quiet and focused hours, not skimming something on Reading widely and substantively leads to a lifetime of learning and educationthe internet and saying you read it) the better they become at discernment and at being able to determine what is true and what is not.

Quintessential leaders know how to think about and apply what they read because what they’ve learned stays with them and becomes a part of their collective reserve of information and their behavior.

Because quintessential leaders are well-read, they are very attuned to verbal inconsistencies and outright verbal ignorance.

Without that learning and educational process continuing, quintessential leaders would be susceptible to believing everything they hear (or read), because discernment, understanding, and knowledge is absent.

As always, we must, as quintessential leaders, look at our own lives to see whether we are on a journey of lifelong learning and education.

Therefore, we need to ask ourselves some questions:

  • Do we read?
  • If we’re not reading, why not?
  • If we read, do we read widely and substantively, or do we read “easy reads” and “fluff?”
  • If we read, can we compare what we’re reading with other things we’ve heard or read and know which is true or whether some or none is true?
  • If we read, does it change our lives because we learn something we didn’t know or we gain a different understanding of something we thought we knew?

If we are not committed to and actively pursuing a lifelong commitment to learning and educating ourselves, then we are not quintessential leaders.

How are we doing?